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The definition of a good mother varies depending on who you ask. However, most people agree that the most important thing is to love your children and make sure they feel loved. There aren’t any set rules for how to be a mom, but there are some guidelines you can use to parent your children in a loving way.
Here are 13 ways you can be a more supportive, loving mother.
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Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Having a support system is really important, especially right after you bring your baby home.[11] X Expert Source
Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA)
Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator Expert Interview. 25 August 2020. Go to source
References
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/10/parenting
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/singletons/201510/how-support-and-nurture-your-childs-passions
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/improving-family-relationships-with-emotional-intelligence.htm
- ↑ Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA). Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator. Expert Interview. 25 August 2020.
- ↑ https://breakthesilencedv.org/how-to-model-healthy-relationships-for-your-children/
- ↑ https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/Pages/How-Taking-Care-of-Yourself-Makes-you-a-Better-Mom.aspx
- ↑ https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/first-1000-days/looking-after-yourself/stress-grown-ups
- ↑ Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA). Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator. Expert Interview. 25 August 2020.
About This Article
To be a good mother, try to set clear, firm rules and be consistent with your consequences. For example, if your child pushes their sibling, give them the same punishment every time, like 5 minute time-out, so they know learn that breaking rules is a bad thing. Besides teaching good behavior, you can be a good mother by showing your love and support! You can ask your kids about their interests to show you care. Additionally, make sure to attend their games and performances, which will show your kids how proud you are. To learn how to split responsibilities with your partner to give yourself time to recharge, read more from our Counselor co-author!
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