My mom keeps telling me there is something wrong with my baby...
I have a 9 week old baby boy. He is a great baby, almost never cries and is so calm, I thought this was a great thing but my mom thinks otherwise. She keeps telling me that there is something wrong with him because he never cries. (He does, just not as much as other babies.) She also says that sometimes he breathes to fast and she thinks that is also not right. Well my baby has been to the doctor and they always say everything is great. It bothers me that my mom keeps telling me there is something wrong with him, but it also worries me because I start thinking that she might be right.
Any Advice?
12 comments
- vPosted 06-24-09
Don't listen!! My mom thought my second son was autistic because he didn't like anybody!!! He is a three year old now that can talk your ear off!!
Thank god everyday that you have an easy going lil boy!
Harmony
Posted 06-24-09Your baby sounds normal to me! Babies breathe fast, and some babies don't fuss much... you're lucky!
- 1Posted 06-24-09
My advice is don't listen to her! You were obviously blessed with a sweet baby and if the doc's saying he's healthy then rejoice!
My mom continually makes comments about my baby daughter being "weird" (said jokingly, but "weird" all the same) because she smiles at my mom when my mom is looking at the TV instead, and seems to think my daughter doesn't make eye contact, either. Well, we know our children best! My daughter's just a sweetie-pie who smiles CONTINUOUSLY and makes eye contact with ME even from across a room!
Don't worry about it. Congrats on your beautiful baby!
Advertisement | page continues below - rPosted 06-24-09
Thank god everyday that you have an easy going lil boy!
No kidding! ITA with pp, enjoy this! My lo has reflux and cries alot especially right after nursing. My MDD was a very quiet baby and my ODD what somewhere around the middle so all babies are indeed different!
Posted 06-24-09I also have a good baby who doesn't cry often, only if something is really wrong with her. I feel very blessed to have such a wonderful little girl, you should feel the same way!
Posted 06-24-09My mom thought the same thing about me when I was little and took me to the doctor bc she thought I was special needs. My sisters always make fun of me for this! but I was just a good baby compared to my sisters. Your mom prob had a different parenting experience that sheis comparing yours to. My son is like that too and I love it! You are just blessed with a calm baby.
- aPosted 06-24-09
My second son didn't cry until he was 6 months old. Never once. He woke up smiling and was always content. He is 4 now and has the best personality. He is never whiny and is always so easy going. Gracie is a whole nother story lol. Every baby is different and just because they are easy going doesn't mean anything is wrong at all.
DS barely cries and only cries when there is something really wrong so your mom is making you worry over nothing.
It amazes me how people think they know your LO better than you. On Sunday I got really POd with DH's cousin (who has no kids). We got to DH's uncle's house in the catskills after a 2 1/2 hr drive. This was DS's first time there and instead of giving him time to adjust his aunt and female cousin were all over him even before I got him out of the car seat. DS was startled awake and started crying inconsolably which is totally out of character for him. DH's aunt grabbed him and tried soothing him herself and then I took him since obviously he wasn't having it, then DH took him to another room. He was upset for about half an hour and DH's cousin (male) said in a snippy tone that I should let DS cry because its good for babies to cry.
WTF!!! I've tried to explain to him like a bazillion times that small babies cry for a reason and we just can't ignore them I honestly lost my cool and gave him a hard wollop on the chest and he had the nerve to hit me back (mind you he's a grown man). I had to walk away to not punch him. DH was upset at me, but I explained that I was sick and tired of having to justify my parenting style to his screwed up cousin with no kids. If he wants to screw up his kids when he has them he's free to do so but back off of me. It finally got his cousin's attention and he finally listened when I explained that babies this small aren't crying to manipulate, they cry because they need something.
Later in the day he made a snide comment about how when he has kids they're going to be really tough. I was thinking more on the lines of feeling un-loved and just as emotionally screwed up as him as his siblings. Didn't say anything though.
Sorry for the long post -- clueless people boil my blood!
